People's lives tend to be put in brackets of birth date to death date. Inside those brackets we list basic facts like parents, spouses, kids, employment, and other key achievements or events. But a life is made up of much more than that and I've been going through the traces of those other things in my mom's life.
There's so much I could write about but there are things my mom wouldn't want on the blog, so I'll just do a couple of examples.
The deer and the squirrel sat on my mom's night stand when I was a little kid and probably longer. I don't know when they got put away. I'd forgotten all about them until I found them wrapped up in the back of a drawer. They're small. The squirrel could sit on a quarter. But they were part of our life together, a connection we had over these little animals.
Another little piece is this temporary pass that was in my step-father's belongings. He was a good friend of both my parents (and my father continued to have good relations with my mom and step-father after they divorced). I'm not sure what meaning this particular pass had. But it's interesting as a connection to the man and to a bit of documentation of history.
Below is the back of the pass.
Here's part of Thailand Peace Corps Group 19's picture when we got to Thailand and just before we headed off to our assignments in 1967. My mom wasn't particularly excited to see me off to Asia then, but she never let on until we talked about it much later.
This is a shot from near the water at Venice beach the other evening. We finally were able to get some time together, just sitting on the beach enjoying the surf. There were more dolphins out there. My mom and I also had a beach bond much of which developed at Venice beach. She was still using her boogie board in her 70s. And there are a couple still in the garage.
And here's a picture she had in her room of my brother Glen, who died in a work accident at age 23. That had a huge impact on my mom, but she kept working and helping others. but went to the cemetery every week to give him new flowers. It's actually a picture I took and developed, including burning in the picture of him surfing in the background. That was before photoshop when you could doctor pictures in the darkroom.
There's also wedding pictures of my mom an dad, her wedding ring, and thousands of other little things.