Thursday, October 15, 2020

Sex In The City - Anchorage Edition

 I've gotten a few calls and emails from Outside friends and family asking about our Mayor's resignation.  Our local situation, has gone national.  Sex does sell newspapers and does gather clicks.  

It seems worth noting here.  We have a good mayor who's worked hard to deal with homeless issues and early on took a strong stand on COVID-19.  And even though we are now finally getting higher new case counts (between 150 and 255 statewide for the last week) our state Test Positivity level has stayed below (with a one day exception)  the CDC benchmark for problems of 5.0.  

Nevertheless, there's a vocal minority who have been showing up at Assembly (our city council) meetings to oppose the closing of bars and indoor eating restrictions at restaurants.  

The homeless initiatives have also generated strong vocal opposition to the mayor too.  While people complain about homeless encampments near their homes, when the mayor developed a large coalition with key funders to buy some properties to house the homeless and to set up an addiction treatment center, neighbors of those properties were enraged.  (I'd note I took an 8 week class last fall on this topic with key local people working on this problem and the municipality has adopted the best approaches from around the country - particularly Housing First - to attack this problem.)

In any case, the mayor's term would have been up next July, after an April election for a new mayor. A relative sent a link to a long Defector article on the Anchorage Mayor story.  While it tends to treat this as "Wow they do weird shit in Alaska" story, it does seem to have all the facts pretty much in order, so if you want more details, you can go there.  (I would note that while they mentioned that one actor in this story had been an escort, I would add that she has stated strongly that she was not a sexual escort, but rather a 'date' someone could hire.)


Society And Sexual Pictures

But one thought has to do with online sex related activities.  It seems there is a generational divide over using dating apps and sharing sexually explicit photos with people.  I say generation gap meaning only that younger folks use these apps  differently and more frequently than older folks.  But clearly older folks who are single, divorced, or widowed use them as well.  And some married folks do as well.  In any case, mores are changing. 

The Defector article makes that point as well:

 "I think ours is now a fairly permissive, post-affair society and today’s married office-holding rogues can get away with consensual, inappropriate messaging relationships if they want to. That said, if I were Berkowitz, I’d be extremely keen to peace out of this job."

The whole phenomena of selfies and sexting combined with the unforgivingness of the internet suggest that mores about public nudity are going through a transition.  And I think this is probably a good thing.  While clothing makes sense as a form of protection from weather and other hazards, we seem to have a fetish about public display of human genitals.  I recall being in Bali in the late 1960s when it wasn't unusual to see women in public with their breasts uncovered.  And I encountered a tribe in Uganda in 1970 where clothing consisted of a string like belt that exposed everything.  

It would be interesting to know what percent of the US adult population have shared pictures of themselves in texts or chats.  I suspect the number is much larger that people would suspect.  And I suspect it's still enough of an issue that many people would lie if asked about it.  

But such photos have spilled into politics.  Rep. Joe Barton of Texas resigned after a photo was published.  Representative Katie Hill of California resigned after pictures were published, though in her case it seems to be more about having a relationship with a staffer,  though she considers it a case of revenge porn by her ex-husband.  Rep. Weiner of New York resigned over a photo in 2011.

 A 19 year old gay Texas city council member who was forced out of office when someone anonymously sent nude pictures of himself he'd shared with someone on the gay dating app Grnder. 

At this point, with lots of people sharing  sexual pictures and videos of themselves to intimate partners, or online, inevitably some of those pictures are going to go public, either by accident or intentionally.  Revenge porn  and dick pic are both in the dictionary.   More and more mainstream movie actors are involved in fairly sexually explicit situations on film.  Mores are changing.  

It's a long time since Senator Gary Hart was knocked out of the 1988 presidential race because of a picture of him on a boat with an attractive woman on his lap.  

Given President Trump's numerous sexual misadventures, it would appear that sexual indiscretions are not an issue with Republican voters.  But they are used to attack political opponents.  

The real issues related to the Mayor of Anchorage, in my mind, are the ones he has to resolve with his family.  They really aren't the business of the people of Anchorage and don't affect his ability to do his job.  Unless there's more that we haven't learned about, I'm sorry he has resigned.  

4 comments:

  1. Maybe the moral of this story is that no matter what they catch you doing, don't resign. Cal Cunningham, running for Senate in North Carolina, was caught sending flirtatious texts to a woman not his wife, and he's still polling five points better than Thom Tillis. Mark Sanford got caught "hiking the Appalachian Trail" with his girlfriend while governor of SC, toughed it out despite threats of impeachment and censure, and later was elected to Congress.

    Europeans, of course, think Americans are laughably prudish and silly about even thinking that sexual misbehavior should affect a guy's career in politics or business. What I find surprising is how many "sex scandals" don't even have any sex in them, just stupid texts and emails.

    And while I'm complaining, isn't it interesting how "inappropriate behavior" can cover anything from putting hands on a woman's shoulders to rape and cannibalism and god knows what else.

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  2. My first reaction to this was, oh, how stupid! Do they think no one will find out! And while that's true, I think he pulled a Gore (as in Gore conceding too early) and he should have waited to decide about resigning. He was a good strong mayor on the Covid-19 issue and tackling homelessness, and now whoever tries to continue that work will face an uphill election battle over those issues. If he'd held on till April, perhaps we would have been past those issues (with luck). Now Anchorage faces a rotating leadership situation.

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  3. You are forgetting a couple of things Steve, one he lied about the affair not only to his family but to the people of Anchorage and did not admit it until he was called out by a conservative blog (funny how the mainstream media missed that.) ' They really aren't the business of the people of Anchorage' As a matter of fact they are because it looks like the people of Anchorage are going to have to pay for a special election.
    Its funny when stuff like this happens on the other side of the street how folks try to parse it as not a big deal. When Brett Kavanaugh was accused he had to remember every minute of every party he attended in college while Biden got a 'get out of jail free card'. Trumps pays a hooker 100,000+ to keep quite people go crazy, Clinton pays off a woman 850,000+ not a word. ( I like to use that as an example what a good business man Trump is getting away paying so little). Clintons sexual escapades are not much of an issue to Democrats on the other hand.
    Oliver

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    1. [First, the comment setting I changed to has done a good job of holding up spam for approval, but letting in most legitimate comments. But somehow, this one got help up for approval. I don't know why. Your other recent comment wasn't.]

      Again, as with the comment about the governor and the virus, you are practicing 'what aboutism.' Criticizing me for something and then pointing out other people that you say I didn't treat the same. The mayor's behavior in this situation is SIGNIFICANTLY different from the other examples you cite.
      1. While the mayor initially denied allegations (and there were a number of them that appear to be untrue) he did quickly acknowledge that he'd had an online affair several years ago.
      2. From what we know, the relationship the mayor had was completely online and apparently consensual. What ,presumably was not consensual, was ending it.
      3. Kavanaugh's accuser was far more credible, yet Kavanaugh has never admitted anything and never offered to step down. And Kavanaugh's behavior was definitely not consensual. Another key difference is that his accuser didn't have pictures. Digital photos were available back then. I really don't think people have trouble remembering attempted rape, even 30 years ago. Unless you're suggesting he did that so often that he can't remember all the incidents. And the rush to put Amy Coney Barrett on the Supreme Court helps us understand the urgency Republicans felt to get Kavanaugh onto the court. And we still haven't heard the full story of why Kennedy resigned and the connection to his son's work with Deutsche Bank which we just found out forgave a huge amount of Trump's debt.
      3. Trump denied the Stormy Daniels incident even though we have proof now that he paid her off. And Trump is still president..
      4. Clinton had serious issues and was impeached over them. There is nothing comparable to the Anchorage mayor's situation.

      So exactly what point are you making here?
      1. That the mayor's situation is the same as Trump's or Kavanaugh's or Clinton's?
      2. If so, what does that mean to you? That he should not have resigned because none of them did?
      3. That the mayor's initial denial was a great betrayal to the public that is somehow worse than the denials of the other people you mentioned - Trump, Kavanaugh, and Clinton? And therefore, what?
      I'd also point out that I mentioned several Democratic members of Congress who did also resign because of photos, but you seemed to have ignore that, or even my whole discussion about how the mores around nude pictures have evolved in the digital age.
      What exactly is your point? Is it simply that his resignation will cost the city an extra election? If so, does that mean you think he should not have resigned like the men you cited didn't resign?

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